Self love, and self care, is such a huge part of my daily life, and it should be a part of yours as well. I’ve heard, “You are unable to fully love anyone else, until you can love yourself”. In todays blog post, i’ve listed the many ways I have learned to self love, and how I work truly taking care of myself, and putting myself first into my everyday routines. One thing before I dive in, is that self love, can take a tremendous amount of time, and patience. So I often have to remind myself that if I am tired, I will not quit, I will just rest.
I was not always this headstrong, and confident. I have self taught myself how to kick ass, and be my true self. Most of it was just being fed up with being everyones doormat. Am I right? Which led me to my first breakthrough. DON’T GIVE A FUCK WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF YOU. #DOYOU. Ridding yourself of what others may think of you, or say about you is crucial. The first thing that comes to my mind when someone has nothing nice to say about someone, is that they are clearly just envious of that person, for one reason or another. Talking unkindly about another person, is not attractive. If you like someones glasses, tell them. If you like someones outfit, tell them! Boosting other peoples confidence, always makes me feel better. Try it out.
Each day when I wake up, I like to set small goals for myself. Whether it be to drink more water, or to repaint my toenails, or planning a coffee date with my best friend. Setting small goals, not only keeps me busy, but inspires me to not only complete the small goals I have set for myself for that day, but to add to my to-do-list that day, or for the next. I get so much done! With the help of my planner of course. This helps me track my goals, big or small. When you do complete your goals, it’s important to recognize yourself. Treat yourself to a coffee, or a new sweater for writing that blog post. You deserve it lady!
A bigger, harder goal for me has been nutrition. I am learning more, and more about food everyday. What you put in your body, is what your results will be. Whether you want energy, or to lose weight. If you stuff your face with 4 breadsticks, you best believe you won’t be motivated to do anything but binge watch Greys Anatomy on the couch for the next 8 hours. In no way am I dieting, but I make better choices about what I eat for sure. I will gladly choose that peanut butter protein bar, over the muffin. I am a firm believer of “You are what you eat”. Making healthier food choices, won’t just benefit your body, it will benefit your soul, your mind.
Surrounding yourself with motivated people, that encourage you is also key. In my blog post about “How Marriage Made Me A Better Person” , I wrote about how I had recently learned that some people in my life weren’t there for me. They were in the shadows, waiting to come to me when it was convenient for them. Ask yourself, “when was the last time that person reached out to you?” or “When was the last time that person called you just to talk about life?” (shout out to my friend Erica, for our phone conversation last night). Your time is just as valuable as theirs. Don’t forget that. I have learned to live my life to its fullest without those people. Communication is key, if you are always the one having to communicate, then it’s a waste of energy. Put that energy towards something productive. You’ll thank me later.
Doing what makes me happy, like blogging, has gotten my creative juices flowing like crazy. That was just the start for me. Once I found what truly made me happy, (besides my husband, and dog), I found myself flourishing. Saying, “what’s next?”. What’s next for you?
These are just a few of the many things i’ve been focusing on to make myself a priority. Put yourself at the top of your to do list every day, and the rest will just fall into place.